Failure as a mother is possibly one of the most painful emotions I have experienced and yet I have (present tense) to learn to continue to fail at the “good mother” complex. A complex is something with many interconnected parts, making it difficult to understand, analyze or solve (Cambridge Dictionary). In the book Fruto by Daniela Rea, she speaks of this complex when she refers to sociologist Orna Donath’s work on Regretting Motherhood, “the ways in which Western societies treat women-or, better yet, mistreat women-are what hovers around these feelings of regret, Enmeshed in social and historical contexts that have pushed us to give birth over and over again in societies that absolve themselves from the work of raising children, mother regret, is a warning sign to rethink the politics of reproduction and the ideas around the obligation to be mothers.”

Is EMDR Therapy reprocessing the best practice for CPTSD memories?

A common dilemma I encounter in my practice and a consulting question I receive is, can we integrate talk therapy into EMDR Therapy?

A common value across all therapy approaches is, meeting the client where they are. This is true whether we are practicing for instance psychodynamic therapy or EMDR therapy. This is an important therapy value that needs to guide our treatment plan.

At its core intersectionality offers clarity of the realities of our societies and names the tools of oppression whether it be respectability politics, pathologizing poverty, or toxic abusive family interactions to name a few that are required to change. In therapy, the knowing of what is wrong, is the seed of change. Intersectionality empowers people in naming the wrongs and paving a new path of healing, joy and liberation.

Cognitive Interweaves (CI) create a shift in perspective, allowing for spontaneous AIP and allows clients to respond SPONTANEOUSLY without thinking through an answer.

Here are a few helpful questions, points that can help you as the therapist decide what the best approach might be